Proverbs 15: 2 Words of wisdom come from the wise, but fools speak foolishness.
I have heard for years that people live at level that they speak. It’s it amazing how you can just listen to a person you have just met and in within a few minutes you can usually hear who they are? We talk to ourselves all day long in our thoughts; we get to choose which ones we will listen to, wisdom or foolishness.
As leaders we need to put in wisdom, so when we do speak the wisdom comes out. We need to think from a point of being wise. When we are having fun do it in a way that lifts others up, in self talk lift yourself up, and in conversation listen so you can wisely answer those who are willing to listen.
I am not saying to walk around trying to be Socrates, but your heart will let you know what is needed to be said don’t be afraid to say it. Your goals will let you know what you need to say to yourself.
“Think before you speak. Read before you think.” ? Fran Lebowitz
Proverbs 13: 2 The good things a man says benefit him. But a liar loves to hurt others.(NIRV)
When we take the time to find the good that is a plus. But when we are willing to say it to others then we have lifted them up to a higher way of thinking. They now have a new picture of themselves. They feel better about themselves and of course feel better about you for being smart enough to notice it.
Lead others to a higher state by finding the good in them and letting them know it. Always be ready to find the good in yourself as well, not to be conceited but to be able to work from your strengths and feel good about who you are becoming. Of course only speak those words to yourself when you are by yourself.
Speak ill of no man, but speak all the good you know of everybody.
Proverbs 12:1 Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but whoever hates correction is stupid. (NIV)*
It was once said that discipline is giving up the lesser for the greater. Giving up some television time to read, giving up a movie to listen to someone successful in your field, or giving up the game to go to a seminar, so we can be prepared for our future. Now that is discipline.
If we refuse to correct or be corrected then we are setting ourselves up for a big fall. Let us be leaders that do what is required even when we do not feel like it. We know the end result depends on our discipline to accomplishment.
Effective leadership is putting first things first. Effective management is discipline, carrying it out. Stephen Covey
Proverbs 11:3. The integrity of the upright guides them,
but the unfaithful are destroyed by their duplicity.
The word integrity has as a base the word integer, a number that is whole, not a fraction. So when one has to always play mental ping pong and decide should I do A or B or C…. Confusions set in.
We know that “A double minded man is unstable in all he does.” Let us make the right choice ahead of times and stick with that choice when the time comes.
Agree with me that we can focus on being 100%, in our relationships, in our work, in our commitments, in our faith and in ourselves. When others see that concurrency they feel safe to follow you.
The better part of happiness is to wish to be what you are.
Proverbs 10: 12 Hatred stirs up trouble, but love forgives all wrongs. (NCV)
When we dislike someone it is easy to find all the wrong things that do. When we hate someone it seems everything they do is wrong. Even if we do the same thing the way they do it is wrong.
When we love someone we can give them the benefit of doubt when they make a misstep or say something wrong. Love is powerful so is hate. We can let both emotions blind us from seeing the truth in matters.
Dr. John Maxwell speaks about a 1-100% formula and here is how it works. Even if you don’t like a person find something about them that you may have in common, something you both like, or something you even both love. If you have to spend time around that person or when you are with them think of that one thing, and put 100% of your conversation, energy, and attention in that one thing.
You will find you have more in common than you thought. You may even have the chance to find a way to move more toward loving instead of hating that person.
Three things last forever Faith, Hope and Love and the greatest of these is Love. I Corinthians 13:13