Proverbs 18: 12 Before a downfall the heart is haughty, but humility comes before honor.
Haughty is the key word here.(adjective 1.arrogantly superior and disdainful.”a look of haughty disdain” synonyms: Proud, arrogant, vain, conceited, snobbish, superior, self-important, pompous, supercilious, condescending, patronizing;)
Have you ever met that person? Have you ever as I have seen him looking back at you in the mirror? It is such a wonderful and humbling experience to find that I can do nothing of great value without the help of others. From a christian prospective I can do nothing with out God’s providential hand in it.
The wonderful thing about this is that I don’t have to be responsible for how it all turns out. Yes I do all I am capable to do, the best I can and oversee any others in my charge. Yet in the end it is all a work in progress. If I grew today, learned something and acted upon it then I have done what I should. As I give sincere credit and praise to others then I am seen as a true person of honor.
Instead if I come across as if I have done it all, that it would never have been done without me, or even as one who deserves all the credit then I have set myself up for a fall. A disgrace and humiliation that will hurt for wore than any good feelings of praise would have felt.
“Haughty, silent faces should not deceive us: these are the timid ones” Jules Renard
Proverbs 6: 9 How long will you lie there, you sluggard?
When will you get up from your sleep? (NIV)
There is so much of lives that is almost automatic. We are creatures of habit. Sometimes it almost feels as if we are sleep walking through life. Unless we make a decision to do so then act upon it, change will not come to us. We will keep walking in that comfort zone that we have built around us.
It is easier to stay in the comfort zone than it is to grow. Challenge yourself to grow don’t settle for an OK life when you can have a great life. Mentally you can stretch, physically you can get yourself in shape, spiritually you can go deeper into your understanding and wisdom, and emotionally you can feel new levels of insight. If you are bold enough ask those around you want you could do that would help them enjoy the time you have together.
As we come to a close on the New Year start jotting down things that you can do better next year. Don’t try to change it all at one time but find things to work on and wake up to find a new you!
I’m a big believer in overcoming and achieving and doing things and not feeling sorry for yourself. Drew Carey
Proverbs 5: 6 Don’t follow her. She has lost her way and does not even know it. Be careful. Stay on the road that leads to life. (ERV)
So many times in life we find people who do not wish to push for a higher level in their life. They do not want those around them to do it either, this way they will not feel as if they are being left behind. When they see you doing the extra it takes they are quick to point out that all the reasons that is it not worth it.
They may even try to show you all the reasons that it is for someone else and not you. They do not want to see you getting your hopes up, or working so hard for something that they don’t think or want you to have. They are glad to stay with the status quo and never take any risk.
To have more in life you need to be more, and do more. In truth it is not that much more because the competition is very small. Most people just want to fit in and conform to those around them. They refuse to take the road less traveled. Conformity keeps them in line to live a life that leads to regret and a wishing that they had only done things differently.
It is never too late. Remember dreams have no deadlines. You can never go back and live yesterday, but you can change directions today that lead to a new tomorrow.
The riskiest thing we can do is just maintain the status quo. Bob Iger
Proverbs 4: 2 I give you sound learning, so do not forsake my teaching. (NIV)
Why do we spend so much time relearning things? Because we seem to devalue the simple things that we really know. I use to have a sign above my desk the sign read “What am I pretending not to know?”. Isn’t that so true? We become lazy mentally so we depend on others to answer questions for us instead of depending on our memories. Thinking is the hardest job in the world.
It is amazing when we think about it, how much of our life is automatic? So many people refuse to put thought into using things they have learned in the past and situations that they are presently going through. If they would they would mix the two they would find answers very quickly. (I am in the same boat.)
So I ask you to be a bit slower to anger when people remind you of things that they have told you before. Look at it as a helpful reminder. I will work to do the same. Be patient with yourself as well it seems some lessons need to be learned several times.
Some choices we live not only once but a thousand times over, remembering them for the rest of our lives. Richard Bach
Proverbs 2: 2 Listen to wisdom, and do your best to understand. (ERV)
One of the best ways to grow in wisdom is to think wise thoughts as consistently as you can. Write them down and read them several times a day. Repeat them out loud (when alone in your house or in the car) otherwise some may think you a bit strange.
When we first start learning new things be it wisdom or car repair, it seems a bit strange or different to us. I encourage you to push on through that feeling and know that understanding lies on the other side of those feelings. (Also, never let feelings alone rule your life.)
It is also an everyday choice. Seeking out ways to grow and understand takes some work to accomplish it. When you read don’t just read books seek the wisdom there and think about it. Push it around in your mind see if you can live with what you have read, does it fit your values, beliefs, and morals?
Watch others that you respect or look up to see how they handle things, ask them if possible how they learned to do the things they do. As we grow in wisdom we will be able to understand it and be able to receive more. As we take in the truth of wisdom we will start to act up it, because those thoughts will lead to wise actions. It will lead us into the biggest room in the world, the room of self development.
The place to improve the world is first in one’s own heart and head and hands. Robert M. Pirsig